Man Admits He Doesn’t Sleep in Same Bed as Partner

The idea of couples sleeping in the same bed every night is often treated as an essential part of a healthy relationship.

Sharing a bed is often associated with emotional closeness, bonding, and romantic commitment, but not everyone agrees with the tradition.

One individual took to Reddit to argue that the expectation is more harmful than helpful.

“An idea that husbands and wives have to sleep together every night is one of the dumbest relationship myths ever invented,” a Reddit user wrote in a post.

To the Reddit user, the practice seems to ignore basic needs such as sleep quality and personal space. The implication is that societal expectations may be pressuring people into arrangements that aren’t actually serving their well-being.

“Wake up, people! Snoring, blanket stealing, midnight foot wars, and different circadian rhythms are not romantic, they’re torture,” they wrote. In their opinion, staying in the same bed despite sleep disturbances doesn’t create intimacy; it fosters tension.

The Reddit user’s post sparked a heated debate in the comments section, with many users disagreeing.

“Your projection is loud and clear,” one user wrote. “Not all couples have to do it, but many couples like to do it.” Adding to that point, another user wrote: “Not everyone is uncomfortable sleeping next to their partner. I hate when my husband works a night shift because the bed is so lonely.”

According to the user, maintaining separate sleeping spaces is not about emotional distance, but rather about preserving individual well-being and improving the relationship as a result. “Forcing couples to share a bed every night is controlling, unnecessary, and frankly, a recipe for disaster,” they added.

Although some people love sleeping with their spouses or significant others, there have been a number of celebrities who have gotten “sleep divorces.” One of these couples is Carson Daly and his wife Siri Daly, who told PEOPLE in 2020 that he and his wife no longer sleep in the same bed. “I don’t know if we’ll ever sleep together again,” he said.

“We’re both pretty good-sized humans, and it just wasn’t really working…I also have sleep apnea, which is very sexy for the ladies out there, I’m sure,” Daly explained. “She couldn’t get comfortable, so we were like a commercial you would see, kicking each other and just not sleeping.”

From the poster’s standpoint, the pressure to sleep together nightly is a cultural expectation that doesn’t work for everyone and shouldn’t be treated as a universal rule. “Separate beds or bedrooms mean better sleep, less passive-aggressive tension, and ironically more passion when you’re actually together,” the user argued. “Space doesn’t kill love, it fuels it.”

Source: People